I’ve written a number of blogs on the importance of focusing on your spouse, and giving them the love and attention that they deserve. However, 30 years of marriage has taught me that there is an equally important time to NOT focus on them. There… Read More »When Not to Focus on Your Spouse
I’m convinced that the difference between a mediocre marriage and a shocking marriage are the games that we play with each other. I’m not talking about recreational activities, but rather control-based games of power and manipulation. In the workshops we’ve led, we’ve had numerous men… Read More »The unhealthy games we play – Part 1 – sex
If you say you never argue with your spouse, I’ll say that you’re not talking enough! Conflict is inevitable in an intimate relationship. The biblical concept of “the two shall become one” is not an immediate transformation, but rather a process that happens over time.… Read More »Rules of Engagement
We have one son that is coming up on his first anniversary, and another son due to be married in a week. In both cases its been fun to listen to the situations that they anticipate that would be stressful. “My family always does this…”,… Read More »Marriage Culture
In most of our minds, we have this unrealistic expectation for conflict that goes something like this… Once you hear and understand my point, you will quickly realize the error of your ways. With this newfound understanding, you will fall silent as you immediately begin… Read More »Is it always about right and wrong?